This is published with a permission of one of my clients who sent me this in an email. It touched me so much that I wanted to share it with you. So many of us get upset at our body when clothes are too snug, when jeans don’t fit, when dresses don’t look good. We focus on the negative crap and don’t notice things that are great, beautiful, and at times even amazing!
This is a great reminder that it is up to you to choose how you feel. Your body is on your side. It is a reflection of what is happening on the inside. It was dark and nasty before. But now you can choose gratitude, happiness, power, confidence, and go for it! Your body will follow! It won’t make you wait long! It wants to feel good and be strong just as much as you do!
Please don’t give up, please don’t say you are over it! When you feel your worst, choose to change it!
Here is a story to inspire:
This morning I split my jeans…I wrote this when I got to work…
This morning something traumatic happened to me — I split my jeans. My really awesome, expensive, super cool, amazing jeans that were magical-kind of like the fairy godmother to my Cinderella. When I put them on, my 5’1 frame was bippity-boppity-booed me into some Giselle strutting being with a hot NFL superstar hubby. Apologies, I digress-they were awesome jeans and I mourn their demise. Like I said, this morning I was getting dressed for Casual Friday and I split my jeans. And then, I tried on another pair of jeans and they didn’t button. It wasn’t my brightest of mornings.
To get real for a moment, I have been struggling with eating disorders and weight issues since I was in high school-and I just went to my 10 year high school reunion so it has been a long, painful battle. Only recently have I been able to face my weight anxieties and really work toward a meaningful recovery. However, I cannot tell a lie, splitting my jeans was a huge blow. I was angry and sad. All I wanted to do was to climb into my stretchy, not able to split pants, and sulk on my couch. Then I thought, you can either sit on your couch and cry or get up and do something about it. This time I chose the latter. Yay, I am so mature these days!
Normally, I take the subway to work. Today, I hopped on my bike. This is where I had my epiphany. Drumroll, please…here it is: I am so lucky to have a body that allows me to ride a bike. I may not be at my ideal shape, but I sure am lucky to have this body. I have two arms and two legs and they allow me to do pretty much anything I want. I may not be the tallest girl but I have the strength to do things that people twice the size of me cannot (let’s just say I have some pretty crazy acrobatic type moves to get my home-improvement things done. I have very high ceilings).
So what’s the take away?
1) It is ok to be mad. Feel your emotions rather than ignore them! The more you listen to how you feel, the better equipped you’ll be to deal with them in a healthy manner.
2) Thank your body! You are lucky to have a vessel that allows you to run, walk, bike, or do yoga. Hey, I’d take gaining weight over losing the mobility of my body any day.
3) Get up and do something! Instead of sitting on the subway angry, I rode my bike to work. I felt refreshed and calm when I walked into the office. I also got to work quicker than I would have if I took the train.
4) Go shopping! Maybe that’s more of my take away here–I need to go buy some new and more awesome jeans.
Talking about shopping, if you want to win a gorgeous dress for the New Years party, you have a chance to win a beautiful transformer dress from Von Vonni. All the details here.